Louise Kay on the beauty of really connecting with another person

The following is from Kevin Daniel Moore’s interview with Louise Kay on November 22, 2017. Louise Kay talks about the beauty of really connecting with another person in the moment. We open the space by being fully present. My emphasis in italics.

6:39 >>Louise Kay: For me it’s so beautiful to have the opportunity to connect with someone and really meet in the moment, because so often we interact with people and our minds [are] somewhere else. We’re thinking about what we’re gonna say next we’re not even fully listening to what they’re saying, or we’re thinking about what to make for dinner, we’re kind of half listening, and we’re looking away, we’re looking [at] what’s going on around, but just to be fully present and really meet someone, and more than look in the eyes feel in my own body what is happening, my experience right now, as I connect with the person and many times I feel that I can feel the person in me right like a oneness aspect. Like, rather than seeing [the] other person just as an external object. If I drop my attention into my body and rest my gaze on the person so I’m not intently staring, it’s more of an inner experience, and I’m tuning in to my own inner world how it feels in my body, noticing my body, noticing my breath, and it creates this kind of space to meet from something bigger, something beyond the personality of Louise and Kevin.

8:24 This “thing”, it’s not even a thing, has no name. It could be called our true nature Divinity, but any label or name that you give it, it’s limiting it, because it’s bigger than anything. … Love is a beautiful word for it…

9:07 …we’re so programmed in a way to rush to the next thing, next thing, next thing, and people become uncomfortable with…stillness…

9:33 …once we allow ourselves to feel that initial discomfort and relax into that and and feel the contractions or whatever is present our attention drops into something deeper and it’s this vastness, this stillness, and it’s always there, just we focus our attention in a different place. We take our attention away from that we focus on our thoughts, on what’s happening around us right now.

10:12 … I would really love to invite people just to take a moment and and drop into that silence and and it’s not a kind of sleepiness. It’s more like an alert presence listening to the sound that maybe we didn’t notice before. Everything becomes intensified in a way, and relaxed intensified, so we become aware of what we didn’t notice. We become aware of our heartbeat, of our breath moving in the body, of all these little nuances happening…

11:04 …that’s a way in to connect to the the true you and the greater power. There’s some divine intelligence, and this is how we access it, just through that silence.

11:28 That it it’s so simple that most of us we miss it and we think that, “No, I must, I must mediate for years and years, because I have to work to get something that’s valuable.” And these are distorted beliefs. It’s, it’s really accessible right here, right now, to all of us if we just stop and become still, and it’s so simple…

11:55 …what more do we need than to rest in this face of love. And we’re on this crazy search, searching for what will make us happy, with the ideas of what will bring fulfillment, relationship, money, a job, this experience, and bring us happiness, but it’s always short-lived, and then we’re looking for the next hit, the next hit, we’re never fulfilled. But what if we could be…happy right here, right now, with this moment as it is?

13:08 …every moment can be beautiful, …even in our pain… it’s the resistance to the pain that creates the suffering. When we surrender to the pain that’s here in the moment, and fully surrender — not surrender in a way, “That’s okay, I’m gonna surrender so that I feel different” — but just surrender in a way that’s fully accepting this as it presents itself.

13:41 …what happens in the absolute surrender is the situation will change… we’ll find some underlying peace. There can be intense physical pain, and at the same time there can be a feeling of bliss, joy, and peace.