Principles of conversation

The following principles of conversation are from The Art of Convening by Craig & Patricia Neal with Cynthia Wold:

Listen

• … with respect for all the voices.
• …  without fixing, problem-solving, advice-giving.

Speak from Your Own Experience

• Speak from the “l,”from your own experience.
• What is on your mind/heart?

Slow Down the Conversation

• Allow pauses between speakers.

Suspend Certainty

• Notice your assumptions.
• Look for the surprises.

Allow Space for Difference

• Be aware of your judgments.
• Honor the questions and the inquiry.
• … and, you can always take back what you said.